Hypnosis can be a fairly easy and unobtrusive way to overcome your male depression.

All you do is get some quiet time, put on your headphones and press ‘play’ on your CD or iPod. No-one apart from you will know what you’re listening to.

Which makes hypnosis probably the most discrete way to treat your problem.

The hypnosis session will take you into a state of relaxation, which will help you unwind and relax generally.

Then there will be a set of ideas which will address your subconscious mind (the part of your mind which takes care of most of the things your body needs to do on a day by day basis).

These ideas will work with you to gradually relieve your depression with little or no effort on your part.

Don’t worry, you won’t be asked to parade around like a chicken or anything else you’ve seen on a TV show.

Then, after about 20 minutes or so, you’ll be brought back into the real world. You’ll likely feel happier than before you started the session and the ideas will keep working long after the hypnosis session has ended.

So men will deny the problem – “I’m OK” or “I’m fine” when in reality they’re anything but fine.

We’ll suppress our emotions – men aren’t supposed to cry – and instead say how tired we’ve been recently or whatever other symptom is expressing itself.

Or we’ll take to alcohol to drown our sorrows. Anything to hide our emotions.

Men may also take out their depression in acts of anger – the frustration that’s built up gets vented on something (anything) rather than letting the world see the true, underlying, emotion.

The trouble is, this means that the signs or depression in men are often unnoticed. Even by trained professionals.

So if you’re trying to decide whether the man in your life is suffering from depression, you’re probably going to need to turn into a detective.

The good news is that because men tend to like solving problems, once their state of depression has been recognized, they may well take it on themselves to sort the problem out. The trick for you is to help them on their way – ideally without getting noticed or spotted in the process!

Suggest one or more of the techniques from the earlier list. Don’t push it though – just drop the hint and let the affected man come round to the idea.

Ideally let them think it was their idea in the first place.

• It can be quick yet still immensely satisfying
• It is possible to do it with less privacy than might otherwise be needed

The female who learns to do this well will always have a way of pleasing her man when she is not truly ‘in the mood’ for sexual activity of her own – and a way of arousing him, of ‘getting him going’ when he might not be as ‘ready’ as she would like him to be!

There are a huge number of techniques that are effective and some of the best and most exciting are shown here. Although it is not essential, the use of a lubricant of some sort will be more exciting for him but remember that baby oil and condoms are not a good match if you progress from masturbation to sexual intercourse.

Six Good Hand Job Techniques

Endless Vagina
Be sure to have well-oiled hands for this one – it can be uncomfortable for him otherwise, instead of ecstatically enjoyable as it is intended to be. Curl your hand around the end of the penis, not too tightly at first but firmly enough that you can feel the hardness. Slide your hand down the penis shaft and just before the glans appears on the other side of your fist, bring the other hand in place over the top of it to repeat the process� the first hand will continue to slide all the way to the bottom of the penis. This feels to him as if he is penetrating an endless vagina� he won’t last long!

Head Stroke
Again, very oily hands are called for here. Hold his penis in one hand and using the palm of the other hand (again well-oiled) slowly and gently massage the head of the penis in a circular direction – it doesn’t really matter which way but reverse direction every now and again.

Shaft Stroke
This one can be a real tease! Stroke just the shaft of the penis moving from the bas up to the ridge of the glans but not going on to the glans head. After a little time you will see that the glans will swell and may become purple as he becomes more and more aroused and engorged. At that point, changing to the Head Stroke or Endless Vagina will send him wild with pleasure!

Cup and Stroke
With his penis lying back along his stomach, cup his testicles gently in your other hand; now stroke the palm of your free hand up and down the underside of his penis using a ‘gliding’ motion. This one is actually slightly better with no lubricant.

Double Handed
Another one for very oily hands. Hold his penis shaft in both hands firmly along his length so that you are doling as much of it as you gain in both hands. Move both hands up and down, being guided by him as far as speed is concerned – some men like it fast, others like it slow and sensual. Keep your grip firm enough that he feels as if he is inside a tight vagina.

Penetration Repeat
Make a circle shape with your thumb and forefinger, small enough that his penis won’t go through it. Place this over the glans and let him push his way in, relaxing the circle as he does so, so that he feels that he is penetrating you. Now slide the circle all the way down to the base of the penis then back up to the top, closing the circle a little as you get past the ridge of the glans; let him push his way in again and repeat. An oily hand is probably best, though some males, especially if they are circumcised, might prefer the extra friction that comes if the hand if the hand is dry – but in this case, be gentle!

Some women are anxious that they might have urinated during intercourse and especially when they have experienced a more powerful than usual orgasm; others spend ages trying to make it happen. The most important thing, as in all matters to do with sexuality and your body, is to not get involved with anything that makes you feel in any way uncomfortable, threatened, or inadequate. If you think you might be ejaculating and it feels good, that’s ok – but it’s also ok if you know you don’t and aren’t even sure you would want to. If you want to try to achieve it, then the notes here will help you – but don’t worry if it simply does not happen, because not all women can do it. One of the reasons for this is the presence or otherwise of the paraurethral glands, often called ‘Skenes glands’ that are sometimes considered to roughly correspond to the male prostate gland. It appears that not all women have them and without them, there can be no ejaculation.

There are around 30 or so of these glands and they produce a fluid similar to the male’s prostate fluid – it is usually odourless (though sometimes smells slightly sweet) and can taste bitter, sour, salty, sweet or a combination of any or all of these. It is usually clear, though can be milky, like male ejaculate, and can sometimes be produced in sufficient quantity via stimulation of the ‘G-spot’ that it is forced out of the body by the orgasmic vaginal contractions, usually with a spluttering effect, sometimes in a short burst or stream which may pulse like a male ejaculation.

Here are some useful – and important – tips if you want to try it:

• The feeling just before ejaculation is reported to be similar to the feeling you need to urinate – so you need to be certain that your bladder is empty. Go to the loo first!
• Some ‘experts’ say that one of the main reasons women cannot ejaculate is that they start to hold back when the urge starts, maybe because of anxiety that they might ‘wee’. If you practice while sitting on the toilet or in the bath, a lot of that anxiety can be removed. And even if you do wee a bit – so what? The chances are that it will be a spectacular orgasm.
• Most women who can ejaculate say that they do so after stimulating the ‘G-spot’ directly, either with their fingers or with a dildo. If you use a dildo, then one with a curve, designed for that very purpose, is perfect.
• Be sure to stimulate the clitoris as well as the urethra; massage inside the top of your vagina around the opening and a few inches inside – you’ll soon find the right place.
• Remember, some women adore G-spot stimulation, others don’t like it (finding it too sensitive) and yet others get little, if any, sensation at all from it.
• You might find a feeling of being hugely ‘turned on’ coupled with a feeling that you might be about to ‘wee’ – this is what many describe as being the feeling just before ejaculation. Just ‘let go’.
• Even if you do not ejaculate, be sure to achieve a good orgasm every time you try – that reward in itself can be enough to help you find it next time.

• Don’t do oral sex
• Share a bath or shower together first – this can provide wonderful intimacy

Perfumes and ‘feminine deodorants’ might well weaken or diminish the smell but they taste absolutely horrid!

As far as techniques are concerned, it is actually very difficult to do anything which will feel bad to her, as long as you respect the sensitivity of her genitals and treat her gently. Anywhere you lick, suck, swirl or tease will usually produce a rewarding response and when you’ve learnt a few tricks you will both experience hugely pleasurable rewards for a very long time. Just licking up and down her lips will be good but if you want to become an expert, here are some techniques for you to practice:

Four Oral Sex Techniques

The Alphabet:
With the tip of your tongue, gently and smoothly spell out the letters of the alphabet on her genitals – you can add the numbers 1 – 9 for good measure. It will become obvious which letter(s) she likes best and it will be easy for you to remember them; you might even discover that spelling words out works wonders…

Teasing the Clitoris:
This one should only be carried out when she is very turned on and very wet: gently spread her vaginal lips apart then pull back the hood at the top to reveal the clitoris… now you can drive her wild by sucking it gently into your mouth and swirling your tongue all around it. Change direction from time to time and move two fingers into her vagina – it’s unlikely that she’ll last long before experiencing an explosive and long-lasting orgasm.

Flicker
Gently spread her vaginal lips apart and ‘flicker’ the very tip of your tongue all around her clitoris; every so often, trace around the inside edges of the outer lips with your tongue, keeping it moving slowly, changing direction each time you do this – never wait too long before coming back to the clitoris, though. Remember that this area is extremely sensitive and although this technique drives some women wild, others find it all too much. Start gently and if she asks you to stop at any time, do so and try one of the other techniques shown here.

Tongue Shag
Most of the pleasure sensory nerves of a woman’s genitals are around the opening, in the clitoris, and in the first inch or two inside pushing your tongue in and out of the vagina – listen to her to discover whether she wants faster or slower – can produce an intensely erotic sensation, especially if you combine it with circling around the inside of the opening.

It has been reported that sucking a mint just before oral sex will increase female pleasure – this is something you should try only after talking to her about it first.

There are many therapists and other experts in the field of human sexuality who will insist that you are unlikely to be sexually healthy unless you are comfortable and skilled with masturbation. It is a fact that because it is something that you can do on your own (though not necessarily on your own) it is almost certainly the best way to discover what feels good and what is not so good.

Most females are brought up with little information about the genitals or that way that part of the body is ‘supposed’ to work and it fair to say that sex and masturbation certainly does not come naturally to all women.

• Some easily achieve orgasm from the start
• Some take years to learn the skill
• Some can only orgasm from intercourse
• Some can only achieve orgasm from masturbation
• Some can only achieve it from vaginal penetration
• Some achieve it only from clitoral stimulation

Masturbation to orgasm can take anything from a few minutes to several hours – and the more you prepare, the more powerful the orgasm you are likely to achieve. Here’s an effective ‘plan’:

• Get yourself in the right mood – some females can just decide to do it, others need to think about it for a while and however you ‘work’ is the right thing for you. You need to make sure you will not be disturbed (so turn off your ‘phone and make sure the door is locked). If you have children, find some way of occupying them or getting them out of the way for a while; it is uncomfortable for children (of any age) to be confronted with a parents sexuality as it is for a parent to perceive it in the children. Make sure you are warm and comfortable and lay or sit in whatever position feels right to you! Most women like to remove all or most of their clothes.
• Explore yourself, touching and stroking the parts of your body that you like – or would like – to be touched or stroked. Use a hand mirror to look at your genitals and become familiar with every fold, every crease, and every sensitive area that you can find. No matter what you might have been taught or told in the past, touch and stroke everywhere and find out what feels good. Try moving your fingers at different speeds and with different pressures; see how it feels when you place a finger on each side of your clitoris and stroke up and down; try a circular motion on the hood of the clitoris using as many fingers as feels best. Use some lubricant if you are dry to begin with – baby oil is perfect for this, though not for intercourse with a condom since it is incompatible with the latex.
• Try all sorts of different techniques: stroking, pulling, pushing, stretching, pinching, knuckling, several fingers, one finger, your whole palm.
• You need to use your mind to get the best sensation – most women who cannot achieve orgasm do not realise this and simply wait for their body to do something; it might happen but it probably will not. The mind is the most powerful sex organ you have, so use it in the best way you can!
• If thinking ‘dirty’ thoughts gets you going then think ‘dirty’ thoughts; if thinking of a certain person, remembering a film you’ve seen or a recalling a particular sexual encounter (even one that you were not supposed to have) does it, then remember or think those things; if you want to fantasise about anything at all, then do that – whatever builds erotic excitement is exactly the right thing to do. Again, forget any lessons about the ‘properness’ or otherwise of this activity you might have received from anybody else – it’s not their body and it’s not their orgasm. The chances are, too, that anybody who has given you the idea that it is ‘not nice’ to do such a thing did it often enough themselves, even if you find that hard to believe.
• Breathe the way you want to and stop and start the way you want to; as excitement rises, do whatever increases your excitement further and listen to yourself being aroused – this can be extraordinarily erotic. If you want to make noises, make noises; if you want to be quiet, be quiet; if you want to gasp as pleasure begins to fill your body, then gasp – it will greatly increase your pleasure.
• Let your hips move just as they would during intercourse – this is a fairly instinctive movement and when you are on your own you can move as deeply or as softly, as thrustingly or as lightly as you really want to.
• A dildo or vibrator can be wonderful, especially if your hand or fingers get tired, and/or if you find an urge to have something inside you – this is especially important if you are seeking ejaculation (see separate ‘Female Ejaculation’ information sheet)
• When orgasm starts, continue the stimulation and hip movement for as long as you want to – you can extent the orgasm this way and may even achieve multiple orgasms. Not all women can, though, so don’t force the issue. The first time might feel enormously powerful or just leave you wondering: “Was that it?” The secret is practice!

Here are some other important facts:

• The more orgasms you achieve, the easier it gets
• You are never ‘too old’ – if you still get the urge, then it is ok to do it.
• A vibrator or other toy can lend a whole new dimension to masturbatory pleasure – they will provide direct stimulation to the clitoris. It’s easy to buy via the internet.
• Many females find the rubbing against a pillow or cushion is exquisitely enjoyable.
• A dildo can provide amazing stimulation of the ‘G-spot’ (see ‘Female Ejaculation’ fact sheet).
• Many women discover that water from Jacuzzi jets or shower heads brings about a powerful orgasm – and often very quickly. Try laying in the bath with your legs apart and playing the water from the shower head against your genitals. Experiment with the pressure and the temperature until you discover what works best for you.
• The most important factor: anything goes!

Various methods that we use to treat it include drugs, therapy, self help and alterative therapy. Tra­di­tional medicine always prefers drug treatment to cure the symptoms of anxiety present in a patient. Though expensive, many use cog­nitive behaviour therapy to overcome the dif­fi­culties and unrest asso­ciated with anxiety.

Hypnosis is proved to be very effective in treating all the problems relating to anxiety. A number of people now prefer hyp­no­therapy for anxiety treatment. Many who have exper­i­mented with this method of treatment wit­nesses the effect­iveness of using hyp­no­therapy to remedy anxiety.

The person who wants to undergo a hyp­no­therapy for anxiety treatment will be put into a trace state of mind by the hyp­notist. The hyp­notist who spe­cializes in this field of treatment is known as anxiety psy­chi­atrist. Con­sulting an anxiety psy­chi­atrist in time will help you from becoming a person with anxiety disorder.

Make sure that the hyp­notist that you approach with an intention to avail hyp­no­therapy for anxiety is a qualified psy­cho­therapist to avoid com­plic­ations. Approach only the hyp­notist who has a good repu­tation among their patients. Try to gather enough information about the work experience and the qual­i­fic­ations of the hyp­notist you choose will help you to find the best hypnotist.

Some people try self hypnosis tech­niques at the comfort of their home to overcome the dif­fi­culties they face in their day to day life due to anxiety disorder. Self hyp­no­therapy for anxiety can be tried by a person after acquiring knowledge in dif­ferent tech­niques and tools to be used in hyp­no­therapy. Self hyp­no­therapy for anxiety will not produce any result if you do it with out expertise or with out undergoing a hyp­no­therapy training.

If you are interested in making use of the tech­niques it is better to learn the tech­niques with the help of an expert hyp­notist. You can also learn it through the online insti­tution that imparts training in hypnosis.

Hypnosis scripts designed to address anxiety problems will also be a great help for the person who tries self hypnosis to cure this mental disorder. Inducing positive thoughts in the mind of the patient with the help of these scripts will def­initely help the patient to overcome this state of mind.

Anxiety dis­orders fill people’s lives with over­whelming anxiety and fear. When anxiety reaches a level at which the symptoms cause the sufferer to experience symptoms which exceed those normally exper­ienced during an appro­priate anxiety reaction, an anxiety attack is formed. Anxiety reactions are formed in the sub­con­scious mind by a small organ called the Amygdala. Anxiety attacks can be elim­inated very simply. Because anxiety attacks and high anxiety are the result of a learning process in the sub­con­scious mind which causes the amygdala to react inap­pro­priately, it can be ‘un-​​learned’ in the same way. Anxiety attacks are strong sen­sations that for many people creates the feeling of dying or going crazy. Anxiety attacks, also called panic attacks, are unex­pected episodes of intense terror or fear. Anxiety dis­orders tend to run in families. People with anxiety dis­orders often have a family history of anxiety dis­orders, mood dis­orders, or sub­stance abuse.

Anxiety attacks usually come without warning, and although the fear is gen­erally irra­tional, the per­ceived danger is very real. Symptoms of anxiety and panic attacks /​ anxiety attacks include racing heart, hyper­vent­ilation or breathing dif­fi­culties, as well as chest pain, nausea or dizziness, headaches, shaking and trembling, and many more. Anxiety can also exacerbate many pre-​​existing medical con­ditions, such as ulcers, hyper­tension, and res­piratory con­ditions including asthma and chronic obstructive pul­monary disease. Fur­thermore, anxiety is asso­ciated with mitral valve prolapse, chronic fatigue syndrome, sleep apnoea, irritable bowel syndrome, and chronic tension headaches. Beha­vioural therapy — per­formed with a mental health pro­fes­sional to help gain control over unwanted behaviour. Cog­nitive therapy — similar to beha­vioural therapy but dealing with unhelpful and unpro­ductive thoughts patterns.Anxiety med­ic­ations can be habit forming and may have unwanted side effects, so be sure to research your options.

Med­ication — A short pre­scription of ben­zo­diazepine tablets, such as diazepam, may be helpful in relieving short-​​term stress-​​related anxieties. Beta blockers are the best drug class to control physical symptoms of anxiety & panic attack and are normally pre­scribed to prevent rapid heartbeat, shaking and trembling related symptoms. Bus­pirone is another medicine that is pre­scribed in the short-​​term to relieve anxiety. Anti­de­pressants such as par­oxetine may be pre­scribed for certain anxiety dis­orders such as gen­er­alised anxiety disorder, social phobia and OCD, and when anxiety is asso­ciated with depression. Group therapy — with one or two spe­cialised ther­apists, par­tic­ularly helpfully for certain con­ditions such as dif­fi­cultly relating to others or being scru­tinised by others. Psy­choedu­cation — recog­nition by the patient that they have a treatable medical con­dition, and self-​​education through books and websites, and mental health professionals.

Anxiety and Anxiety Attacks Treatment Tips

1. Hyp­no­therapy – Hypnosis for anxiety is con­ducted by a clinical hypnotherapist.
2. Cognitive-​​behaviour therapy (CBT) is very effective in the treatment of anxiety disorders.
3. Med­ication is sometimes used in the short-​​term to alleviate severe symptoms so that other forms of therapy can be pursued.
4. Relaxation tech­niques – Relaxation tech­niques such as pro­gressive muscle relaxation, con­trolled breathing, and guided imagery may reduce anxiety.
5. Biofeedback – Using sensors that measure physiological arousal brought on by anxiety.

Fundamentally both the Weight Watchers and Slimming World promote healthy low fat & carbohydrate eating with gentle exercise and that is really the best way from a physical level to lose weight. Therefore you are burning more calories than you are taking on board and therefore your body is burning it’s reserves.

This is all fantastic stuff however there is another aspect to everyone’s eating habits that despite their best endeavours the slimming clubs are unable to make significant inroads into namely the psychological aspect.

This can be as simple as being told as a child to always clear your plate, and maintain that practise through to adulthood, where you decide on how big a portion to have on the plate. It can also be a more complex matter of comfort eating which frequently stems from childhood when you were given your favourite snack as a ‘reward for being brave’ or to ‘put a smile on your face’.

Typically these rewards would be high carbohydrate items like crisps or biscuits or sweets. So then as an adult who is feeling rough you reach out for some of your comfort food and gorge on it. Very few people will reach for an apple or banana as a comfort food item.

So if you want to reap the full benefit of your investment in your membership fees of the likes of Weight Watchers and Slimming World then you could do a lot worse than have a few sessions with a specialist who can help you to look again at your relationship with food and the reasons that at certain times you find it much harder to step away from the snacks.

One of the most effective approaches is using hypnotherapy that will help you to make the changes in how you deal with food at a subconscious level making it easy to stick to your diet and even motivate you to increase your exercise levels.

Many people have used hypnotherapy audio programs and others find that the personal tailored approach of a professional therapist suit them better. Typically like all things in life the tailored personal approach tends to be much more effective.

Typically an audio package costs anything from £9.99 upwards and personal sessions with a therapist can cost from around £50.00 a session up to hundreds depending on the therapist and the location. It is worth mentioning that when selecting a hypnotherapist it is important that you ask enough questions that you feel comfortable to proceed. All professional hypnotherapy will be happy to answer all your questions openly and comprehensively; if things do not feel right then move on.

And for audio programs that are normally delivered either as a CD package or MP3 download then it is important that you have ample support available via telephone or email.

One such package is the highly regarded “Ultimate Hypnodiet” from the West London Hypnotherapy Clinic which in it’s audio only format has help many people who use the slimming clubs to make the most of their subscriptions. Some anecdotal evidence indicates that it can help people lose an extra 2 or 3 pounds a week and most importantly makes it easy to stick to their new healthy diet. For more information see the West London Hypnotherapy Clinics website.

Irritable bowel syndrome is a functional bowel disorder, which causes abdominal pain, and in some cases, fever, diarrhoea, bloating, constipation and nausea. It is a common ailment, which is thought to affect one in three people at some point in their lives.

The causes of irritable bowel syndrome are unknown, particularly as IBS sufferers show no physical abnormalities in the bowel. Because of this, many specialists believe that stress is a major factor in causing this painful bowel disorder.

Currently, a hypnotherapist at the Manchester hospital is treating more than 60 irritable bowel syndrome sufferers every week. Patients are coming from locations throughout the country to experience this cutting-edge course of 12 hypnotherapy treatments, which means the hospital now has an 18-month waiting list.

Pamela Cruickshanks, who is one of Wythenshawe Hospital’s three clinical hypnotherapists, explains how the treatment works. She said: “We provide patients with 12 sessions of ‘gut-directed hypnotherapy’, which teach patients to take control over their bowel. Due to the success of this treatment, patients are coming from all over the country to access our services, and hypnosis is now considered to be the treatment of choice for moderate to severe IBS.”

One irritable bowel syndrome sufferer from Manchester, Claire Brunton, suffered from painful cramps and other symptoms of the bowel disorder so badly that she stopped wanting to eat, which left her on the verge of anorexia. She also started to suffer from terrifying panic attacks because she was worrying so much about getting ill.

However, as a result of Wythenshawe hospital’s revolutionary hypnotherapy programme, she has learnt some great techniques to stop her panic attacks, control her symptoms and help to cope with the pain. While her illness had once held her back in life, the hypnotherapy treatments have helped her to cope with the stress of her final university exams, as well as giving her enough confidence to enter the world of work and begin a new job as a recruitment consultant.

Claire was quick to praise Wythenshawe Hospital’s hypnotherapy treatment for IBS, she said: “Hypnotherapy is a very strange thing to try to describe, your therapist helps you to relax slowly but you are awake and conscious throughout – it feels like the last few moments before you go to sleep when you still know what is happening around you.”

Before embarking on this treatment, Claire had tried a number of other IBS therapies to no avail. She explained: “IBS was taking over my life. I had started to worry I would not be able to hold down a job and I didn’t want to eat because I felt like everything I ate made me sick, so I’d tried all kinds of herbal remedies and acupuncture before the hypnotherapy.”

As well as having hypnotherapy, Claire was also given a number of blood tests at the hospital that showed she was allergic to dairy and wheat products. She now avoids these foods and finds that her symptoms have eased a great deal.

Source:

Manchester Evening News